Grace makes beauty out of ugly things ~ Bono
Year after year, I see the wounded wobbling into my office around this time.
The Expectation Train derails and causes mass casualties between December 25th and February 14th. Most are still injured following a fall into the Disappointment Ditch of Christmas. So the forecast of a Failure Frenzy on V-Day is pretty predictable, with a 95% chance of resentment.
Isn’t “love” a beautiful thing?
We do this to ourselves though. As a society, we allow the hype of media and advertisers to woo us into the fairy tales of candlelight dinners, sparkling gems, and imported chocolates accompanied by fine wine.
Although there is a piece of us living in reality, the fantasy can be all consuming…and quite damaging. Especially when we keep these ambitious hopes sequestered within, setting up the Failure Frenzy that much more.
Here’s the deal – when we live each day with intentional love and authentic connection, the pressure to fulfill made-for-TV dreams becomes null and void.
But what is ‘intentional love’ and ‘authentic connection’? It’s being able to state your truth – your joys, your worries and your annoyances with respect and consideration. It’s being an adult in a mutually caring relationship.
It’s the ability to reframe the coffee rings on the counter from a malicious act of personal contempt to a love note, letting you know your husband is home, safely sleeping beside you at night.
It’s the choice of listening with the goal of curiosity rather than the motive to be right.
It’s putting away the scoreboard and picking up the pom-poms to be the personal cheerleader of the one you have chosen as your lifelong confidante, companion, and lover.
It’s pausing to think of your own worst traits before you opt to recite the peculiar pet peeves you’ve catalogued of your spouse’s.
It’s saying, “I’m sorry. I was wrong. What can I do to make this better?”
Intentional love and authentic connection is grace in action. It’s believing the best about our partner and trusting they believe the best in us. In this world of fear and anxiety, let’s not add to the turmoil – let’s love with grace.
Believe. Create. Live.
© 2016 Rebecca G. Townsend, LLC
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